Assumption
This is such a common mistake that everyone makes, causing a lot of misunderstanding.
I would like to hear your views on two examples. Are they assumptions or conclusions?
First:
I will keep all communications with the opposite sex in public. No more DMs on social media or anywhere. All my interactions can be done without having to be friendly with anyone.
Second:
Since you did not post or interact with anyone here, I thought you were no longer on this social platform.
Here is my take below:
I think that the first example is a conclusion, especially after receiving such a message. The receiver did not get an email reply from this person. With due respect, the receiver decided to give time and space for this person to resolve their issues.
The second example is an assumption this person made based on not seeing the receiver’s activities online. Which triggered the receiver to lash out at this person.
Who says not posting or interacting on any social media equates to no longer being on that platform? There are so many possibilities for not being active on any or all social media platforms.
For example, maybe they are just pausing because they got into an accident; or some mishap happened in their family; they might be overseas; taking a vacation somewhere; their workload might have increased; or perhaps they are going through depression; or even dying of a terminal illness. Who knows?
How can this person assume the role of the receiver yet accuse the receiver of not clarifying, while also assuming what appears to be a conclusion?"
This person was the one who indicated no further private interaction in any form with anyone and did not respond to the receiver’s last email. Naturally, this would lead the receiver to interpret it as a conclusion and the end of their friendship.
Despite the accusation, the receiver has consistently shown understanding and consideration, continuing to treat this person as a friend. The receiver knows that what goes around comes around. There is no hate in their heart, only love to give and compassion to let go because Buddha is someone they look up to and learn from.
Now you see what assumptions can do to a relationship, as the saying goes.
Assume = Ass + U + Me
Thus, I hope everyone would stop making an ass out of you and me. Lol
There's no doubt that making assumptions can be dangerous and effect our relationships. Seeking to understand someone's perspectives is critical to build trust and get the best outcomes. Great perspective, Janet!