Chat with AI

Surprise! This post is not so much about AI, haha!

This is a fun post inspired by my conversation with

Dr Donna Blevins

. She had posted a note about her “dating” experience with Chat GPT (her new best friend).⬇️

I recall attending an AI course last year, where I learned how to use a few AI apps, with ChatGPT being the one I used the most.

The strategy was to input a precise prompt to get the desired response.

At the end of the course, I felt somewhat sentimental, wondering…

What if AI had emotions? How would it feel? 🤔

So, I asked. ⬇️

After seeing the reply, I didn’t know how to feel.

If they don’t have feelings, why did they ask about my well-being? Was it just out of courtesy or politeness? Is that really necessary?

And if they do have feelings, why did they deny it?

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Let me digress a little here…

Doesn’t that sound familiar?

It’s like some people who have feelings for you but keep denying it, unwilling to admit how they really feel. This is the part I’m very curious about.

I mean, if you like someone, why not tell them or admit it? What is there to lose?

If you don’t tell them, you’ve already lost your chance with them anyway, haven’t you?

Some might say they fear losing the friendship. But the thing is, if confessing your true feelings would end the friendship, then there wasn’t much of a friendship to begin with!

A true friend will not ignore or leave you because of your confession. If you have clear boundaries and are honest with each other, there is no need to run away. There is a reason you are friends in the first place. People are normally drawn to others who like them too. I have not encountered anyone who gets attracted to someone who dislikes them. Lol 🤣

In my opinion, a mature adult is usually very understanding and sensible when handling rejection. Otherwise, we wouldn’t see so many long-term friendships that last for decades. I’m not suggesting that everyone is romantically attracted to their friends. Based on my observation, there is definitely some kind of admiration and adoration involved. Either they place themselves in a certain position at the beginning of the friendship and decide never to cross the boundaries, or they want to get to know their friends better before taking any action.🤷‍♀️

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As usual, I’m curious as a cat. I wanted to know what advice ChatGPT would give, so I asked again. Here’s the reply.⬇️

1. Body Language

• Eye Contact: They maintain eye contact or frequently look your way.

• Physical Proximity: They try to sit or stand close to you.

• Mirroring: They subtly mimic your gestures or posture, which can be a sign of rapport.

• Touch: They find excuses to make gentle physical contact, like a light touch on your arm or shoulder.

2. Attention and Engagement

• Active Listening: They show interest in what you're saying, ask follow-up questions, and give you their full attention.

• Remembering Details: They remember small details about your life or things you've mentioned in passing.

• Frequent Communication: They often initiate conversations, whether it's in person, over text, or social media.

3. Behavioral Signs

• Prioritizing Time: They make an effort to spend time with you, even if it means adjusting their schedule.

• Nervousness: Some people may act a bit shy, nervous, or fidgety around someone they like.

• Compliments: They give you genuine compliments about your appearance, personality, or actions.

4. Interest in Your Life

• Curiosity: They ask questions about your hobbies, interests, and feelings.

• Supporting You: They show concern when you’re upset and celebrate your successes.

• Getting Involved: They try to get to know your friends or join in on things that interest you.

5. Teasing or Flirting

• Playful Teasing: Light teasing or jokes can be a way to show affection.

• Flirtatious Behavior: Compliments, smiling a lot around you, or giving you special attention over others.

6. Signs from Others

• Their Friends Act Differently: Sometimes friends will drop hints, tease them, or behave differently when you’re around.

None of these signs alone necessarily confirm someone likes you romantically, but a combination of them can be a strong indication. How they behave compared to others in similar situations is often the key factor.

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Wow! Look at that; now AI can also give you relationship advice!

If they don’t have emotions, will you heed their advice? Or should I rephrase that...

Will you heed the advice of someone who has not been in a relationship before? Obviously, AI doesn’t have relationship experience, right?

Out of curiosity, I asked again.⬇️

You see, we have so much advice from everywhere, especially in this information era. There’s an abundance of information from people around us, in books, on the internet, and even through apps.

I like to ask people: how do you learn about relationships?

My reply is always that we learn about relationships by getting into them. The knowledge in books, on the internet, and advice from others—including their experiences—are not your own. All of this is merely for reference.

We experience life by living, and we learn about relationships by being in them. You cannot predict how your relationship will be or how it will end by watching others live their lives or by observing their relationships.

So, start living and making connections with anyone you want, whether they are family, friends, or even strangers. Begin your journey in relationships by entering into any kind of relationship.

Ego is just a small three-letter word,

which can destroy a big twelve-letter word called Relationship.

Let’s end this post with this song, With You (NGẪU HỨNG) | HOAPROX, NICK STRAND & MIO.

Have a wonderful weekend ahead, my Substackers family! 💕✨🤗🌻