Do something that scares you
What do you fear most?
Initially, I thought I would feel uneasy, worrying that people might stare at me. But in reality, I forgot about it the moment I stepped out of the hair salon. When I realized I didn’t have a hat on, nobody noticed my bald head. Literally, nobody cared! Lol 🤣
A few months later, my hair grew out, and I traveled with my aunties and uncles to Turkey. One of our stops was the Anıtkabir Mausoleum, where we viewed the tomb of their founder, who was also the first president.
While inside the Mausoleum, a local family (they didn’t speak much English, so I assumed they were Turkish) approached me and asked to take a picture. My first thought was that they wanted me to take a picture of their family, as I probably looked like a photographer.😎
But to my surprise, it was the young lady who wanted to take a picture with me. I had absolutely no hesitation; in fact, I was exhilarated. Not only did they take a picture of me with their daughter, but they also took another one including their son. It was an honor and made me feel like a celebrity! 😮
We parted ways after thanking each other. I regretted not taking a picture of them with my phone after they left. So, when I saw the pretty girl again outside the Mausoleum, I couldn’t wait and requested a quick snap with her. This made me over-the-moon happy!
You might be wondering what this has to do with my topic.
Well, the moral of the story is that we need to be brave enough to ask when we really want something. If you don't ask, you will never know. The young lady didn’t ask me directly but requested her parents to ask. Sometimes, we can ask for help from others—there’s no shame or embarrassment in asking for help.
Though to this day, I still don’t know why the young lady wanted to take a picture with me. Maybe she admired my short hair, which, I guess, in their tradition, girls usually keep long!? Perhaps it was my cheerful vibe that attracted her, as I was always smiling and jovial.
In the same year, I started writing on my previous platform. There was a Syrian writer who was living in Turkey. I told him that I was traveling there and requested to meet him. We didn’t meet due to his busy schedule. I even pitched myself to him for a job, but he kindly rejected me, advising that I should first understand what the other person wants before pitching. 🤷♀️
Sometimes, we just need to take that leap. There's no point in overthinking before you receive a reply. You'll figure out the next steps once you know which direction to take.
There's no need to be disappointed because, deep down, you already know the answer. You might look at me with a puzzled face—how would you know the answer?
Whenever we ask a question or make a proposal, the answer is either yes or no, isn’t it?
Why do people get disappointed? It’s because we often expect to hear the answer we want to hear.
Many people fear rejection! In fact, they’re often afraid of losing the chance at their dream job or the person they hope to be with.
So, you may ask, how do we deal with disappointment?
As long as you did your best during the interview, whether they hire you is beyond your control. Let the result come to you. If they don’t offer you the job, perhaps a better opportunity is waiting for you.
Be brave and confess to the person you like; you never know, they might feel the same way. If not, you can move on, and maybe someone better is just around the corner."
Expect nothing and appreciate everything
Look at it this way: if you never pitch yourself for a job or confess to the person you like, what happens?
It means you've already lost the chance of getting that job or being with that person, along with the potential of building a beautiful relationship with them, right?
Therefore, you have nothing to lose! You can't lose something that was already lost!
By giving it a shot, you at least stand half a chance of winning and getting what you want. No matter what, there's always a 50% chance.
Maybe you're a math genius and want to argue there's a possibility of "maybe." However, when you boil it down, it’s still a yes-or-no question. People won’t wait forever for "maybe" as an answer. Ultimately, you need to give a definite response. And once again, we’re back to the 50/50 outcome! 😏
Life is simple; it’s humans who make it complicated. We overthink, dwell on past emotions, reminisce about old memories, daydream about the future, and forget to focus on the work in front of us.
When you learn to accept instead of expect, you’ll have fewer disappointments
Let me end this post by sharing this song, Alan Walker - Alone!
We are not alone! No matter what others say about you, energy never lies. Always believe in yourself! When you align with positive energy, the right people will come into your life.🙏😊
Sending you lots of love, light, and positive vibes!💕✨🤗🌻
💕 be urself always 💕
Love this post and love the song as always :-)