Imperfection

Perfectly imperfect

Do you think there is a perfect relationship?

Isn’t it funny that some people have everything, while others have nothing, yet both feel the same thing called “fear”? Even though that fear stems from different places.

Those who have everything might think that others want to be with them for what they possess rather than for who they truly are. On the flip side, those who have nothing might feel they are not worthy of being with anyone because they have nothing to offer besides themselves.

Either way, both are afraid to form a connection and be in a relationship.

Do you belong to either of these two “categories”?

I suppose most people fall into neither. It’s uncommon for someone who has everything to remain without a partner, and the same goes for those who have nothing.

Well, unless we’re strictly talking about a soul-level connection or a genuinely loving relationship.

There is no perfect relationship

There are so many misconceptions about relationships in this world. Most people (probably from older generations) think that providing stability, staying committed, and being present are enough.

However, they have neglected the compromise of their spouse’s or partner’s emotional well-being. There is a disconnection on both an emotional and a mental level. It isn’t about not being enough or a lack of love and care, but rather about understanding and empathising with their significant other’s needs.

Check out this short video; it elaborates much better than my words.⬇️

There is no perfect time, perfect situation, or becoming a perfectly healed person before we enter into a relationship.

As human beings, we are a work in progress and constantly evolving. That’s why we keep saying to become a “better” version of ourselves instead of the “best” version!

Every version is the “best” at that given time under those specific circumstances.

When we realise that perfection doesn’t exist, we learn to move forward with the knowledge we hold and do our best.

Healing is a continuous process

The same goes for healing; we don’t simply wake up one day and say, “I’m healed.” It’s impractical to focus on healing every second of the day.

Some days, we are busy with work, household chores, and taking care of others. On other days, we might simply want to let loose, be a couch potato, binge-watch Netflix, and eat snacks. And on yet other days, we sit in stillness with nature, meditate to quiet our mind and soul, or work out to keep our body fit.

I think this is a more realistic approach to life than a “perfect Instagrammable” one.

Nothing in this world is perfect

Someone may not look perfect, but they might be “perfect” for us. We must learn to love the imperfect parts of ourselves in order to love the imperfections in others.

The question is to define perfection on our own terms.

Maybe they are too tall/short, too pretty/handsome, too educated/smart, too rich/poor, too far away/near, too similar/different, too religious/spiritual.

To love is to be brave enough to express ourselves and not fear rejection. It is better to love and lose than to regret not loving at all.

Studies show that people regret the things they haven’t done more than the things they have.

Let me end this post with Declan J Donovan - Perfectly Imperfect

Have a fabulous week ahead by taking a bold and imperfect move!