No, I didn’t want to be a superhero who saves the world. I just wanted to save one person from the world.
But time and again, I failed.
After many experiences, I came to understand a few reasons why.
The people I tried to save might not have wanted to be saved. They never asked for my help—it was my assumption that they needed saving.
And by making that assumption, I was unknowingly judging them and their lives as not well lived.
Nobody likes to be judged—especially by someone who hasn't experienced what they’ve been through. Even if we’ve gone through similar situations, it’s still not the same, because we are not them.
Everyone perceives things differently, based on our character, personality, and upbringing.
Let me side-track a little.
I used to think my second brother treated his family—especially his children—too harshly.
But recently, when I observed their interactions again, I realized that this is how he expresses his love: through tough love.
In a way, his children have already faced the toughest person in their lives. So, no matter who they encounter outside the family, they can face them with confidence and ease.
His discipline has shaped two beautiful, well-mannered, and independent kids who know how to think critically. From a young age, they were trained to stand their ground—even against their father.
Alright, back to the topic!
I believe there's nothing wrong with any lifestyle we choose.
When someone’s lifestyle differs from ours, it simply means our paths are not aligned. That’s all.
I’ve learned to love and show appreciation while we’re together. What matters most is to be happy—and to stay happy—as much as possible.
If there’s a disparity, there’s no need to spell it out. Doing so often leads to unnecessary arguments that go nowhere.
People only change willingly when they are not judged, but respected. And if someone truly wants to grow, they won’t wait for someone else to trigger that change—they’ll already have the awareness and desire to take action in their own life.
What’s most important is to observe their behaviour and stay mindful of our own emotional well-being.
We’ll know we’re on the same page—when our vibes align, our energy exchange feels balanced, and we’re moving forward on the right track together.
Otherwise, we simply go our separate ways—no need for criticism, judgment, grudges, or resentment.
There is no way we can save someone who is unwilling to admit they need help.
Trying to reason with a mentally unstable person is a waste of time—I’ve been there, so I know!
When we’re in the depths of depression, all logic goes out the window.
From the viewpoint of a “normal” person, they might say, “Just snap out of it—what’s so difficult?”
Having been through it myself, I can say: yes, snap out of it!
But how?
It’s the decision we make that changes everything.
Check out My depression episode to find out how I did it.
I shall end this post with Whitney Houston, Mariah Carey - When You Believe
Have a miraculous weekend ahead as long as you believe!💕✨🙏😊🌻
Everyone shows their love in different ways, your second brother raised two strong kids! And the fact that now they can approach any situation with confidence and navigate it in the best way they can is great. Made me think, kids in the West grow up very soft and parents are over-protective. Then going out into the real world is an uphill battle and there is so much unlearning to do. Not sure if it's different in Asian cultures, but can imagine there's more discipline there so the children grow up stronger.
Trying to reason with a mentally unstable person is a waste of time—I’ve been there, so I know!
My wife has been struggling with this recently when she discovered this with one of her friends. It was a great learning opportunity for her 😊